Jealousy is a tricky thing; if you use it too often it loses its effects and if you don’t use it enough than you end up getting bored. The truth is everyone gets jealous whether they accept it or not is entirely a different question. But I say if you are going to use jealousy anyhow then why not use it to get what we want. Now, I know this may sound a bit manipulative, but as the well known phrase goes “Everything is fair in Love and War” and jealousy is the combination of love and war. So, if you are interested in learning to make a guy jealous then this is the right place for you.
When to use Jealousy?
Jealousy is a very powerful tool which causes a lot of damage as it is, so let’s not use jealousy to make someone’s life miserable. The good thing is jealousy can also be used in a positive way to make things good and here’s some example of when to and when not to use jealousy.
When to use jealousy:
When you are in a relationship and you feel a bit neglected then that’s the perfect time to use jealousy to get the attention you deserve. Here jealousy helps to keep relationship fresh by spicing it up a bit.
When you like a guy and you think he likes you too, but is playing hard to get by ignoring you then that’s the perfect opportunity to use jealousy. This way you show the guy that two can play this game.
When Not to use:
If you broke up with someone then sleeping with his best friend just to get back at him is not the best way. Here you are using jealousy to punish him and that’s not going to be good for either of you. Right now you are mad and not thinking clearly, but after a while when your rage settles down you will regret it. So remember never to use jealousy as a post break-up tool.
Why to use Jealousy
Guys generally will never accept that they get jealous. Another thing is that they are the last one to figure out if a girl likes them or even if they like a girl. This is where jealousy helps to speed things up a bit. If you like a guy and don’t really know if he likes you back then you can use jealousy to pry it out of him. You see the way jealousy works is that the guy actually has to accept that he likes you before he can actually talk to about it. This way if you make a guy jealous then you know he cares and you can use it to get what you want. And lastly jealousy is pretty good tool if you want to spice things up a bit in your relationship if it gets boring.
Tip to make him jealous
The best thing about making a guy jealous is that, it’s too easy. Men get jealous like when you look hot and they know that they are not with you or when you are flirting with anybody else or when you ignore them for a while. It’s just male bravado that they want everything easily and not want to work for anything. Now using jealousy you can turn that table in your favor and make them work for you. So here are some of the ways you can make a guy jealous.
First things first, guys are very visual so dressing up and looking sexy is the easiest way. But even for the other tricks to be more effective you need to look sexy, so it’s a default step to make a guy jealous. For this to be most effective you need to know his likes and dislikes. Some guys like a girl with a pony tail but most like open hair; some likes blondes and some brunettes. Knowing these kinds of things can give you a leg up when trying to make him jealous. But one thing common in all guys is they like a bit display of skin, yes a bit creepy, but guys will be guys.
Be a Flirt
Being a flirt is way too much fun and plus this way it helps you to get all nervousness out before you get to flirt with the guy you want. Nothing will make a guy more jealous then watching a girl he likes flirting with his friend. So, compliment his friends and also flirt with him a bit as well so he doesn’t feel left out. Doing this will help you develop a repo with the guys as the cool chick. So if a guy likes you then this will give him that boost he needs to approach you and make him work twice as hard to impress you.
The only thing guys hate when they like a girl is when that girl ignores them. Guys can’t handle the fact that they are not your first priority so why not use it make them jealous a bit. Don’t show that you are just waiting around for his phone call even if you are. If you are on guys back and call then sooner or later this guy would interest in you and that’s not what you want. Don’t pick up the phone on the first ring let him suffer a bit and make him call you twice or three times if you feel like it. But remember not to take it too far. So if a guy has worked to get your attention then you should give him some otherwise you will just wear him out and he may just stop chasing you altogether.
Group hangouts can work in two ways. When you have female friends then the group hangout can be used as an ignore him phase. Secondly when you have male friends then it’s just pure jealousy for your guy. If you are in a relationship then this will help spice it up a bit and even let you know how much he cares. And if you are in getting to know each other or dating phase then this can be the one thing that makes girlfriend and boyfriend. But if you are just friends wanting more than this is the best thing for you because it brings out all different kind of feelings from him which tells you if he is interested.
One of the best things about these days you can make them jealous without even meeting them face to face. With the help of technology it’s quite easy to make a guy jealous as well. Taking selfies with male friends and posting them on your instagram and facebook page is one way to do it. If you are uncomfortable posing with guys then you can always post picture with your female friends at a party or at a concert having a great time without him.
Doing all this lets him know that you have a great life without him and you don’t really need him. And the thing with guys is they like to be needed so, when you post these picture it makes them feel a bit insecure and jealous. Technology in our case can be a very good thing but only if you use it wisely and not overuse it.
What to Avoid when making him jealous
As I have mentioned before Jealousy is a tricky thing if done poorly can do more harm than good. Sometimes people don’t know what they are doing and end up making someone jealous and other times they try too hard and end up losing the person. Now that you have learnt about how to go about jealousy it’s only fair that you get some warnings and some don’ts before you start making your guy jealous. So, here are some things you need to know.
Don’t Be Obvious
When trying to make a guy jealous you can’t be too obvious about it. Sometimes girl try to pretend that they are having a good time when the guy enters the room and let me tell you a guy can tell pretend fun from actual fun in an instant. Don’t do that instead continue what you were doing as you clearly were having fun without him. Secondly sometimes girls try to make him jealous so much that they constantly flirt with his best friend and no one else or sent him the selfies with other guy.
Now doing all this is being too obvious. Instead of flirting with his best friend just compliment his friend in front of him and walk away and instead of sending selfies to him post it on facebook wall tagging your blabbermouth friend. Doing these both things will get his attention but won’t make it too obvious.
Don’t Go Overboard
It is very common when making a guy jealous to lose track of your end game. You slip and tend to go overboard losing the guy completely. If you want to make a particular guy jealous then flirt with his friend only for a couple of minutes. This flirting should be simple as you like what he is wearing or other things you notice. After this, shift your focus to your guy when he tries to get your attention back a couple of times. Don’t give your utmost attention to him at the first instant. You need to make him wait just long enough so that he does not feel you are not his level.
If you go overboard then the guy might feel a bit insecure and won’t ever try to get with you again. So remember just to push him enough but not more than that. You will know this from his facial expressions and body language so look out for those.
Keep in mind not to forget your goal when using jealousy. Sometimes people have so much fun making the other person jealous that they completely forget their goal and ruin it. So keep it short, sweet and harmless. Jealousy is suppose to be a fun banter to spice your relationship up a bit. If you are not in one then perhaps using it can help you start off. Just remember to have lots of fun when doing it and to stop when it’s not fun anymore.